London Hypnotherapy|CBT|NLP Coaching

The first thing your London hypnotherapist should do is understand exactly what you want to create.

Many times a person comes to see a local hypnotherapist because they have a problem in their life that they want to remove so they can get on with their life.

However quite often they do not have a problem it is just that they want to create more of something, or be better at something. The power of hypnotic suggestion is a wonderful tool to help people get the change that they want.

A top London hypnotherapist if highly skilled and competent will most of the time insist on a consultation to discover exactly what the client wants to achieve. Even now if I said to you the sat cat on the mat and you were to ask 5 people the same question, everyone would come up with a different type of cat and a different mat. Some people would ignore the suggestion of the mat altogether and do something entirely different with the suggestion. The point that I am making here is that for every single word we have learnt we have specific meanings for what it pertains to us.

In order to ensure that the suggestions that you are given are exactly what you want a detailed consultation should take place. This increases the effectiveness of the communication. One of the models which could be used to gather this information is the Meta Model the first Model built from NLP. The hypnotherapist should if a trained coach should have a huge number of empowering questions to help to start to find out exactly what the problem is, and what the subject wants instead. Not only that the therapist /coach should be able to ask questions that suddenly start to move the focus of the problem towards the solution. When this is done the problem can start to shift instantaneously before the hypnotherapy even starts!

I thought I would share some of the questions I may ask here.

Additional FABULOUS Questions to get inside someone’s world

How do you manage to [problem or challenge]?

How would you know if that wasn’t true?

If you did know, what would the answer be?

How do you manage to [problem or challenge]?

This question presupposes that an issue or problem is actually a skill that they've acquired. How do you manage to get frightened of public speaking? How do you manage to stay in debt? If they accept that it's a skill, then it's possible for them to learn a different skill – one that contains the solution.

When you ask the question, watch and listen. The person will give you clues to how they are creating their internal representation of the challenge. Their eyes will move, they’ll gesture etc. Chances are, they’ve never thought of their ‘problem’ as a skill before. Just this change of perspective can give them more power in the situation. By the way, rapport counts when you’re asking these questions!

How would you know if that wasn’t true?

Beliefs have a structure, and when people have a limiting belief, it is almost as though their awareness is constrained by what they don’t want – they have been focusing on the limiting belief.

 When you ask someone “How would you know if that wasn’t true?” a funny thing often happens. They go into a slightly confused state, and then imagine the mental conditions necessary for a new empowering belief. Sometimes, there is a sudden shift, and the limiting belief disappears in a puff of smoke. More often (in my experience), the new belief is like a newly planted tree – it takes a bit of time and nurture to grow and become strong. You can help the process by affirming the new belief, and by sorting for evidence to prove that it’s true.

If you did know, what would the answer be?

Don’t that if someone says they didn’t know that they’re telling the truth! It turns out that often people just think they don’t know. When you ask the question in this way, they often discover that they do!

When someone says “I don’t know” in response to a question, they are claiming knowledge of their own internal state (“I am 100% sure that I do not have the answer to that question.”) If the question is about brain surgery or rocket science they may in fact be right! But in the case of questions about themselves, their dreams and aspirations, we can assume that this is just a limiting belief.

 I hope this was of interest to you if you have any questions about hypnotherapy in London , NLP coaching or just have a question you want answering please do not hesitate to contact me. Nothing gives me more pleasure than sharing the knowledge I have to help people make a breakthrough in their life.

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